Enneagram 4w3 -The Aristocrat-

Enneagram type 4 wing 3: The Aristocrat is a subtype that results from the encounter of types 4 and 3, which means that 3’s determination is added to the volcanic potential of 4. It sounds like a mix the professor from The Powerpuff Girls would make, right?


The enneagram 4 wing 3 overview

This great combination broadens the core type’s scope connecting it to reality. If you’ve already read about the Enneagram type 4, you may have noticed that they’re very introverted and have an amazing inner world they rarely share with others. However, the 3s influence comes into the mix to save them from their tendency to remain silent, giving the world the chance to see them. 

They’re still part of the same crew: The Feeling Triad, which means that most of the time they’re in charge of their emotions and feelings. Those are the very engines of their actions and the fire of their decisions. The heart is in command. However, the Enneagram type 4w3 can be misinterpreted as part of The Head Triad because of their ability to discover new things, solve mysteries and problems, and their constant thirst for knowledge. As they spend a lot of time inwards, they become incredibly creative. Although their insecurity might not allow them to see that. hinders the recognition of it. The 4w3s feel safer by treasuring all their thoughts as if they were a Soul Gem. They don’t take too many risks. The less exposure the more comfortable they will feel. The main challenge for 4w3 is to detach from their feeling waves and find their own identity beyond them.

Enneagram Type 4 The Individualist
Enneagram Type 3 The Achiever

Enneagram 4w3 Personality Traits

Basic Fear

Enneagram type 4 wing 3’s most basic fear is to be insignificant. Feelings are like information flows that highlight their insecurities and idealizations. They’re so attached to feelings, they end up strengthening their shadows. They let their sentimental flows carry them away, allowing for old – and sometimes burned-out – patterns (and sometimes burned-out ones) to resurface and talk for them. 

To find peace of mind and safety, they withdraw into their inner world, where they never get bored. If there’s something they can show off is their vibrant imagination. 

Basic Desire

Enneagram type 4 wing 3 basic desire is to have a defined and strong identity. Feeling self-confident and self-reliable are the most important wishes they have and struggle for. Because of their introverted style, they often feel out of place among other people. To avoid standing out, they adapt themselves to other people’s thoughts and behaviors. 

Being unique, authentic, and finding out what’s their mission and how they can impact the world drives them to a constant pursuit of themselves. As if they were tracking their own clues, 4w3 surround their inner world, to observe and study it.

Enneagram 4w3 Strengths

Enneagram type 4w3 strengths come from the inside. It comes from their power – still unknown to them – to change and impact lives. All the time they spend contemplating their own feelings as a botanic gazing at a flower gives them a profound sense of humanity and empathy. This amazing data makes them very sensitive people. Although it can be the reason for their insecurity, their vulnerability is a powerful connection with the world that if well managed, can lift them to the top. Self-knowledge and imagination are definitely their way to their highest version.

Enneagram 4w3 Weaknesses

Enneagram type 4w3 weaknesses are overthinking and underrating themselves. As it’s been said, they are swimming in their inner and unique oceans, and they are not afraid of diving deeper than the last time. The problem is that they are not aware of how courageous and curious they are. In that sense, introversion is their way back to a familiar place, where they are the masters of the scenes, and only they know the twists the script can take. To trust their resources and stand out is fundamental for them to find exactly what they are looking for: identity.

How Enneagram 4w3 personalities like to work

Learning how each personality works gives us powerful insights. It helps us overcome different situations and improve our relationship potential. Let’s check some vital Enneagram type 4 wing 3 aspects.

Communicating with an Enneagram 4w3

Always consider their feelings. Be clear to avoid misunderstandings. Make room for them to share their points of view. 

Meeting with an Enneagram 4w3

Be inclusive and try to take their interests and opinions into account.

Emailing an Enneagram 4w3

Try to mail only when necessary and to assign specific tasks. This is a great moment to recognize and appreciate their hard work

Giving feedback to an Enneagram 4w3

When giving feedback it’s always great to be assertive, clear and respectful. Because it can be a very good starting point for 4w3 to unleash  their creativity.

Resolving conflicts with an Enneagram 4w3

To solve conflicts with them, make sure you are being empathetic. Communicate your feelings and encourage them to share theirs.

Enneagram 4w3 Motivations

To get to their best version, Enneagram 4w3 types need to feel motivated. The thing that lights their fire is being accepted by their partners, in a comfortable and healthy environment where everyone is heard. They are truly brilliant when they find a place where they can free their imagination. Then, they will accomplish their goals. 

Enneagram 4w3 Stress

When Enneagram type 4 wing 3 gets stressed out, they can get even more introverted and disconnected from the environment. As they overthink everything trying to solve the situation, they may think they are the problem. Insecurity controls their perception and they get lost and blocked. Expressing it, could improve their inner world.

Enneagram 4w3 Jobs

The most common jobs for Enneagram type 4 wing 3 are: Performer, Motivational Speaker, Personal Trainer, Photographer, Journalist, Music Teacher, Artist, Hair Stylist, Dance Instructor. Everything where they can explore and boost their creativity is the proper field. Also, they love to activate other people’s creativity so it’s natural for them to seek such activities.

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