Enneagram Type 4 in A Relationship with Type 6

How Does Each Enneagram Type Enhance the Relationship?

These two Enneagram types have deep and sincere feelings for each other as they are both highly emotional and often feel insecure around people. They also tend to have strong feelings and to be a bit hot-headed as they like to act on things straight away, mostly driven by their intuition. When they are in a romantic relationship, both Fours and Sixes may feel they are soul mates connected by their deep feelings and a touch of distrust. In their world of suspicion, they think of their partner as a real ally, someone who offers them support and reassurance.

All of these traits make them have an unusual degree of empathy and tolerance towards each other. When healthy, they tend to support and balance each other out, usually acting as a reliable and safe space where worries and complaints can be safely vented.

On one hand, Fours bring emotions, sensuality, and the ability to openly express their feelings, which is something that Sixes often lack. Also, they give Sixes the sense that they are needed, which helps Sixes gain confidence to cope with a wide range of situations.

On the other hand, Sixes bring hard work, perseverance, tenacity, and loyalty to the relationship. They can also be warm and unpredictably playful, which provides Fours with a platform to develop their creativity as well as the support they need to work through their emotional issues.

In short, this couple is usually steady, balanced, and bold. They also have the ability to fill in each other’ needs both in their own personal growth and in more practical matters.

Possible Conflicts and Differences of Opinion:

As mentioned before, both of these Enneagram types have issues with distrust and abandonment. At the ground level, they can be emotionally reactive, pessimistic, and they can get easily overwhelmed. Lack of communication is also a possible response and it’s likely that they will test each other in different ways in an attempt to evaluate their partner’s loyalty. They will also avoid showing affection and paying attention to their partner in an attempt to protect themselves from getting hurt. Doing so will make their own prophecy come true: their fears and reactions will be the main reason behind the outcome they are consciously trying to avoid.

If both types can become codependent, reliance on each other can put a stop to their personal growth: Fours will no longer be practical people while Sixes may stop seeking personal growth.

Another potential trouble for this couple has to do with tolerating changes. On one hand, Fours are usually into self-exploration and self-development, and therefore are adventurous when it comes to new experiences and life-changing events, while Sixes tend to be more conservative and resistant to change, sometimes avoiding personal introspection. This can be a potential conflict between these two types as Sixes may feel that Fours are holding them back and repressing their creativity and self-growth.

That’s why they tend to be adventurous in matters of life experience and events. On the other hand, Sixes tend to be more conservative and resistant to change, sometimes avoiding personal introspection. This can be a potential conflict between them since Sixes may feel that Fours are holding them back and repressing their creativity and development.

Fours usually complain that Sixes are not free-spirited and romantic partners, whereas Sixes may think that Fours are not emotionally stable enough, which makes them unreliable and untrustworthy. As both types are reactive during disagreements, conflicts can escalate quickly: misunderstandings can lead to projections and massive over-reactions on both sides.

Fours usually complain that Sixes are not free-spirited and romantic partners, whereas Sixes may think that Fours are not emotionally stable enough, which makes them unreliable and untrustworthy. As both types are reactive during disagreements, conflicts can escalate quickly: misunderstandings can lead to projections and massive over-reactions on both sides.