Enneagram 2w3 -The Hostess-

Enneagram type 2 wing 3: The Hostess is a subtype that results from the encounter of types 2 and 3. This means that 2s natural personality blends with a touch of 3s manners. With that combination, they tend to be very helpful, caring and attached to people, but at the same time they can be ambitious, determined, and more self-centered.


The enneagram 2 wing 3 overview

Enneagram types 2w3 are very sociable and are always seeking love and attention. They are very pleasant people, always willing to help. You don’t even need to ask; they immediately get into an attentive and helping mode. As they are restless helpers, they don’t understand indifference.

As they are truly caring, they know what other people need, and they will do whatever they can to get it for them. This is where 3’s influence shows itself the most. They become determined and ordained. No one needs to ask them for anything, once Enneagram 2w3s step in, they scan the atmosphere with their feelings-reading superpower and try to give others what they lack. Nevertheless, this might result in self-repression and avoiding negative feelings. Keep in mind that this Enneagram type is under the Feeling triad umbrella, which means that they’re heart-oriented when it comes to making decisions. 

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Enneagram 2w3 Personality Traits

Basic Fear

Enneagram 2 wing 3’s most basic fear is to feel adrift with no love and acceptance. They can’t stand the idea of loneliness, so they do their best to be worthy of love. And as frightened as they are, they are constantly sowing deep and intimate bonds they can rely on. 

Sometimes in this pursuit of love, they forget their real-self value and freshen up their connections to others. They become emotionally dependent and have to deal with shame. All the tons of expectations they lay on the relationships they care about, can become a mountain of pressure on their shoulders.

Basic Desire

Enneagram 2 wing 3’s most basic desire is to feel loved, and warmed up by others as if they were in an everlasting safe space. This longing for acceptance and affection is their actions’ source of strength that, mixed with 3s conviction and endurance, becomes unstoppable. 

It’s true that love is a good reason for anything, but is it still that great when it requires permanently renouncing yourself? Setting boundaries will be the main challenge when this happens. Real love grows like flowers, without effort but with proper care at their own pace. The same happens to people. Understanding this will give the 2w3 a backup to trust in their bonds and not worry so much.

Enneagram 2w3 Strengths

Enneagram type 2 wing 3s are hopeful, proactive, and generous people that won’t settle for less. They will do anything they need to achieve a goal they have in mind. Even more so if said goal can make a positive impact and benefit other people. 

The 2w3 are open-hearted people that like to have deep conversations. Even though they rather listen than talk. What they like to talk about the most is their actions and helping others. If other people pay attention, they will see that behavior as a whole ceremony.

Enneagram 2w3 weaknesses

Enneagram type 2 wing 3’s greater weakness is that they worry too much. As they are fully aware of other people’s needs, they make their problems their own. And when that happens, their lives start revolving around solving every problem they can. This has a big impact on the 2w3’s decision-making process, as they feel that in a way, they are responsible for other people’s comfort.

They like to take care of others, but their insecurities get in the way sometimes. Then, fear butts in and pushes 2w3 into waiting to get back what they gave others. Otherwise, they will hide in the clock tower to struggle by themselves in peace.

How Enneagram 2w3 personalities like to work

Learning how each personality works gives us powerful insights. It helps us overcome different situations and improve our relationship potential. Let’s check some vital points to learn about the Enneagram type 2 wing 3.

Communicating with an Enneagram 2w3

Communicate with assertiveness and make room for sharing points of view.

Meeting with an Enneagram 2w3

Acknowledge their willingness to help and set the stage for them to solve things and be supportive of the right activities.

Emailing an Enneagram 2w3

Be concise, respectful and mindful. Show interest in them and make the connection happen. 

Giving feedback to an Enneagram 2w3

Be grateful for their work and motivation. Share with them your views on things. 

Resolving conflicts with an Enneagram 2w3

Talk with clarity. Encourage them to share their feelings and needs.

Enneagram 2w3 Motivations

Enneagram type 2 wing 3s feel motivated when they can explode their potential and be useful to other people and solve their pain points. As they want to leave a mark, they love to be in charge of positive impact projects. They can have great ideas and be quite purposeful and optimistic.   

Enneagram 2w3 Stress

On the other hand, 2w3 will feels stressed out when people don’t acknowledge them. Although their action comes from their empathetic heart, they can’t help but expect some appreciation, as they see it as fair and a token of care. Failure or not being able to get things done might make them insecure and upset.


Enneagram 2w3 Jobs

The most common jobs for Enneagram type 2 wing 3 are: Non-Profit Leader, Entertainer, Religious Leader, Motivational Speaker, Public Relations Specialist, Real Estate Agent, Customer Service Representative, Human Resources Manager. Anything where they can make a difference will fit like a glove on them.

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